Elise has been talking a lot about her first and second families.
We'd be the second family. :)
While she's always been proud of being Chinese, she really hasn't had too many questions or opinions about it. But lately, she's been saying things like, "if I were in China, I'd be sleeping right now" or "my first family is probably sleeping right now."
Clearly, she's trying to sort things out in her mind.
I think some of these statements stem from watching the Olympics and talking about the time difference, but the whole first/second family is a new topic.
We've tried not to romanticize the past for her, but rather give her facts. We've always told her we are sure her birth family loves her but they just couldn't take care of her. After reading Kay Ann Johnson's book, "Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son," I suspect Elise might be a 2nd or 3rd daughter and her birth parents were hopeful she'd be a son.
Anyone else experiencing this? How are you handling the questions?
In the end, however, I always let her know that while I might be her second mommy, she'll always be my number 1 daughter.